Specialties
Being a parent informs everything I say or do as a clinician, and it makes me particularly conscious of the “reparenting” function of the therapist. I understand that our parenting is often a reaction – positive or negative – to how we were raised. I will help you understand what your parent may have been thinking when they did something you experienced as challenging, cruel, or otherwise inexplicable. And, when it comes to your own children, I will help you sort out your own motivations so that you can be the parent you want to be.
Parenting
Many of us have grown up in an atmosphere of what I call “stoic masculinity,” in which fathers are not demonstrative with their love or their other “softer” emotions. This leaves us without a masculine role model for knowing how to access, feel, and express our emotions in a balanced way. In addition, in our zeal to “fix” things, we often fail both to listen and to provide enough empathy for the people we love. I will help you on your journey to becoming the loving, sensitive, caring man you and your loved ones want.
Men
The best way to help people repair their relationships – whether couples, parent/child, or others – is to increase understanding. This starts with communication, and I will encourage you to share with others the effects their words/actions have on you. I also will help you understand the root causes for your feelings and behaviors. Doing so allows all parties to better understand why the other does/says the things they do. At this point, people find that they feel greater empathy towards each other, which, in turn, makes each one of them feel more loved.
